1. There is a reason why you are where you are and although you may not see it now, when you do, you’ll see the beauty you missed the first time
2. It’s ok to call your mom at 2 in the morning
3. It’s ok to call her crying
4. It’s ok to cry period
5. Whenever you are down, don’t play sad Nirvana or Coldplay songs for too long, blast anything that will drive those thoughts away even if it is One Direction
6. Watch youtube videos when you feel lonely
7. Don’t try and make friends based on how cool they look…your real friends will show their coolness in time and it will be so much better
8. Don’t take 8am’s unless you have to
9. Your grades will be there, but the times driving late at night around the city making memories won’t
10. It takes at least 2 people to clear wrap a car
11. There is always time for a skype call, google chat, or even facetime
12. Make sure you eat before you start drinking
13. Patience, though at bitch at times, is your biggest teacher
14. You have every right to be angry, but do not dwell in it for long for the world will and is going to go on without you and you are meant to be in that movement instead of standing still in anger
15. Have confidence in what you wear, no one else will wear that outfit the way you are
16. Don’t wear open toed shoes to a party you will either have something spilled on your feel or get them stepped on and it’s not worth it
17. Dry cleaner sheets take oil out of your hair
18. Laugh. Even when you don’t feel like it because, it really is the best medicine
19. Singing helps too
20. The people who you can call crying or laughing the first night you are drunk, or the first night you are homesick, and stay on the phone with you are the ones that will stay with you for a lifetime
“Women are socialized to make men feel good. We’re socialized to “let you down easy.” We’re not socialized to say a clear and direct “no.” We’re socialized to speak in hints and boost egos and let people save face. People who don’t respect the social contract (rapists, predators, assholes, pickup artists) are good at taking advantage of this. “No” is something we have to learn. “No” is something we have to earn. In fact, I’d argue that the ability to just say “no” to something, without further comment, apology, explanation, guilt, or thinking about it is one of the great rites of passage in growing up, and when you start saying it and saying it regularly the world often pushes back. And calls you names.”—The art of “no.” « CaptainAwkward.com (via ethiopienne)
“Racists will always call you a racist when you identify their racism. To love yourself now - is a form of racism. We are the only people who are criticized for loving ourselves. and white people think when you love yourself you hate them. No, when I love myself they become irrelevant to me.”—Dr. John Henrik Clarke (via sonofbaldwin)
A faculty member at Minneapolis Community and Technical College, Shannon Gibney, received a formal reprimand for her handling of a discussion about structural racism in her Introduction to Mass Communication course.
According to Gibney inan interview with City College News, a white male student asked her, “Why do we have to talk about this in every class? Why do we have to talk about this?”
She claims she was shocked, because “[h]is whole demeanor was very defensive. He was taking it personally. I tried to explain, of course, in a reasonable manner — as reasonable as I could given the fact that I was being interrupted and put on the spot in the middle of class — that this is unfortunately the context of 21st century America.”
Gibney says another white male student followed the first, saying “Yeah, I don’t get this either. It’s like people are trying to say that white men are always the villains, the bad guys. Why do we have to say this?”
When Gibney attempted, again, to inform the students that they were mistaking a systemic critique for a personal attack, the students continued to argue. Eventually, she told them that “if you’re really upset, feel free to go down to legal affairs and file a racial harassment discrimination complaint.” This is exactly what they did.
Gibney is familiar with white male students taking discussions about structural racism as personal attacks, as it has happened before: ina 2009 incident, an editor of the school newspaper took offense at a similar discussion. In both that case and this one, Gibney received an official reprimand. After the latest accusation, the Vice President of Academic Affairs appended a letter to her file, in which he said he found it “it troubling that the manner in which you led a discussion on the very important topic of of structural racism alienated two students who may have been most in need of learning about this subject.”
“While I believe it was your intention to discuss structural racism generally,” he continued, “it was inappropriate for you to single out white male students in class. Your actions in [targeting] select students based on their race and gender caused them embarrassment and created a hostile learning environment.”
Gibney told lawyers at an investigatory meeting for an anti-discrimination lawsuit she and six other professors are filling against MCTC that the vice president’s words “have helped those three white male students succeed in undermining my authority as one of the few remaining black female professors here.”
There’s a lot of irony in this story. In the students’ subsequent freak out about feeling “singled out” about structural racism they went over her head and tried to get the professor fired…indicating structural racism.
“At the same time, a conservative, consumerist gay mainstream culture has moved gay pride away from its radical potential. Instead, gay pride has become a corporate capitalist spectacle. Capitalism, as Kenneth Cimino citing Bob McCubbin argues, has redirected the call for gay liberation “into safe business networks, like advertising in magazines, marketing of gay consumer products, and/or trying to make gay pride marches into innocuous celebrations.” When gay pride does incorporate a pressing political issue, like solidarity with LGBT activists in the Global South, it takes on a form that doesn’t contest the dominant narrative, but supports and perpetuates it.”—Egbert Alejandro Martina, “Wanted For Love, But Not Here: The Travelling Rights of African LGBT Activists” (via esaedders)
prioritize trans women. prioritize fat trans women in your body positivity and fat acceptance. prioritize butch trans women in your celebrations of fucking with gender roles. prioritize trans women of color anti-racism activism. prioritize trans women.
I don’t even think half the people shopping on black friday are poor, every year so many middle class people I know drive across the border & go to Seattle to shop, which is a few hours away, and all the border crossings are so packed & it’s usually a…
Signal boost for our Haitian sisters and brothers in need of our kind of media attention. Since white media doesn’t give a fuck about black life let’s show how ever way we can that the Dominican Republic is wrong and evil as fuck for allowing and even facilitating what’s happening to the Haitian citizens of D.R.
First they humiliate, slaughter, lynch, abuse or rob them then they try to deport them. This is fucking 2013 people need to cut this racist violence out.
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i think nicki goes “hyper-feminine” (see: Barbie) and challenges…
“White people’s number one freedom in the USA is the freedom to be totally ignorant about those who are other than white… And our number two freedom is to deny that we’re ignorant.”—Brown Eyes-Blue Eyes Experiment - “The Angry Eye” By Ms. Jane Elliot (via esaedders)